A Good Wife: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spo

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Proverbs 31:11-12

I would believe that, like the woman of this famous proverb, all of us blessed with a husband would say that we do our husbands "good" and not "evil". None of us intentionally do evil to our husbands (I hope not anyway!) But I was struck recently when I looked up just what the word "good" means in this verse. In our modern language, "good" is an extremely common, almost overused, word. However, don't be fooled. Check out all that is packed into this small, rather ordinary word. *

She will do him good by being....

Skillful

Competent

Kind

Affectionate

Benevolent

Faithful

Pleasant

Agreeable

Cheerful

Honourable

Elegant

Polite

Real

Merciful

Respectful

Festive

Commendable

Proper

Companionable

Sociable

Mild

Calm

Loving

Sweet

Wow. Did you have any idea that "doing him good" involved all these things? Although not listed in any particular order of importance, it is interesting to note that only the first 2 of the 24 have anything to do with physical expertise; the remaining 22 are qualities of character. This gives us the undeniable fact that personality far outweighs proficiency. Many of us may excel in physical abilities but just how are we doing in regards to character?

To make it especially clear, if the above list describes what "doing him good"involves, then let's see what the opposite, "doing him evil", would entail. The word "evil", of course, also includes moral sin and wickedness, but for our purpose in recognizing the opposite of the above goodqualities, "doing him evil" would involve being...

Unskilled

Incompetent

Harsh

Callous

Selfish

Untrustworthy

Displeased

Argumentive

Joyless

Dishonourable

Crude

Insulting

Hypocritical

Hard-hearted

Disrespectful

Glum

Disreputable

Unbecoming

Antagonistic

Withdrawn

Easily irritated

Temperamental

Unloving

Resentful

Hmmm... rather hard-hitting, isn't it? And, to be very blunt, when we demonstrate these traits, we are doing our husbands evil and not good.

Of which are we more concerned - our proficiency or our personality?

We know that our flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that [we] cannot do the things that [we] would (Galatians 5:17) but thankfully we also have the words of Philippians 4:13 [We] can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth [us].

May we seriously search our hearts and see whether we are doing our husbands good or evil. If we are brave enough, perhaps we should show this list to our husbands and ask for their evaluation of our "doing good". Perhaps we need to reassess our character and renew our commitment to treating our husbands "good", putting into action all that this little word involves.

May it be said of each one of us,

She [does] him good and not evil all the days of her life

and then, be it no wonder that...

the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.

Written by Zonya Bergsma

Reach Hearts Ministries

*According to Strong's Hebrew and Greek Dictionary


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Teach me your way, O Lord, that I may walk in your truth; unite my heart to fear your name.
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